Now some of you people might be thinking "Oh oh oh! Now this girl wanna talk about incest? Has she gone crazy? Maybe she loves incest".
Nah, I am not here to support incest or fight against incest. I am just here to lay some facts in front of you. I am talking about "incest" because everyday in the chatrooms I get msgs from these kinda people (usually I just block them but if I have more time, I reason with them to make them understand their problem). I sometimes see them getting abused on the wall and I don't see abuse as a solution. It will only make it worse and they will keep coming back unless you make them understand why it is wrong. Keep your minds open while reading this post and it is gonna be long. If you are uncomfortable about this topic, just skip it.
Most people know incest is wrong but most of them think it is wrong for the wrong reasons or they don't know any reason. I am just here to tell you the right reasons and in the process maybe I can get you to think about some interesting questions. For me, incestuous feelings are a problem that needs to be addressed, instead of getting ignored.
First, let us understand why we don't get sexually attracted to our parents or siblings. It is due to the "Westermarck effect".
What is this effect?
Well, it is kind of a defence our subconscious minds had learned throughout evolution to avoid giving births to genetically weak off-springs. We don't get sexually attracted to our parents/siblings because we have common genes and if we have kids with them those common genes will result in mental disorders and health issues in those children. So to avoid that our subconscious minds developed this defence.
Why incest is wrong?
As I said earlier it will lead to malformed or retarded children, thus you are making those children suffer for your actions which is ethically wrong. That is why our elders say it is wrong.
Why do some people get incestuous feelings?
Incestuous feelings can be seen in any gender (mostly in men). If you observe these people and think about why these feelings occur, you can see some similar traits in them. These people are not so confident or too shy, they are not so social or outgoing, they get uncomfortable while speaking to the opposite gender, they are timid and they are not so emotionally expressive. These people get incestuous feelings because they don't have a way to vent out their sexual energy and our bodies by evolution always want to look for ways to procreate.
In this scenario, the subconscious will be forced to lower its defence down because our genetics need to be survived by an off-spring. The subconscious will be forced to think like "Well, there is a viable male/female whose already loving me, who's already in my reach, whom I can mate with to reproduce". This happens in the background, in the subconscious. So basically these people create themselves a situation by their behavior in which their mind will be tricked to think like this.
It happens in animals too. When two animal siblings, male and female are forced to live in a closed enclosure for a long time without any other's intervention, without any other animals of their own species, they mate to continue their species. In animals, we call it "Inbreeding", in humans we call it "Incest". Sometimes incestuous feelings can develop on meeting your parents/siblings after a long time. In this case, your subconscious needs time to identify them as your own family again. After that, the feelings will go away themself.
How to deal with people with incest feelings?
Incestuous feelings need to be treated like a mental disorder. One doesn't have to hate these people. One just has to reason with them and make them understand their situation and help them to get confident, more social. Make them go out and make them connect with people. One must teach them to overcome their fear of the opposite gender. It is gonna take a while to make them cultivate these habits but when they do it, these feelings will automatically go away. The problem is people don't wanna talk about these feelings because of society and all, they try to subdue their feelings without any help and it only makes it worse. Sometimes these feelings need therapy and thanks to society because of which people don't go to therapy. Because whenever society sees an individual seeking therapy, society thinks of the person as a degenerate or crazy rather than an individual trying for the betterment of him/herself.
Sometimes incestuous feelings can be caused by watching some categories of porn or maybe by watching too much "Game of Thrones" (you know what I am talking about ), just kidding . In that case, you just have to make them quit that.
Whomever reading this post, if you have any friends or family members struggling with these feelings, reason with them. Help them to overcome their fears, help them to become confident, and take them to therapy.
Answers for a few questions I got asked in ZoZo chatrooms:
Caution: Views are personal.
1)Can an adult have consensual sex with their adult sibling/parent with safety precautions? Is it right or wrong?
Yes, you can have sex with precautions. Having said that, you are already attached to your parents/siblings. And when we have sex with anyone we get more attached to them. If you have sex with your sibling/parent the bond will become more strong and it will make you struggle in your future relationships. You will struggle to get into a new relationship or maintain an existing relationship. Your life will get more complicated. You will complicate your sibling/parent's life too. So I suggest people to never act on those feelings for your own sake. If you act on them, you are only destroying yourself and their life. Which leads me to the conclusion "it is wrong".
2)If homosexuality is not wrong, why incest is wrong?
Well, in homosexuality you can't have children with your partner, but in incest that is not the case, accidents can result in unhealthy children. That is why it is "wrong".
3)Is homosexual incest ok?
Okayish. Having said that, it is still wrong because, you are making your life seriously complicated, why? Read the answer to question 1 again. So "No, Nada, Not a chance in the world".
A scenario for people to ponder on:
Let's put you in a worst-case scenario. Tomorrow you woke up on a tropical island and you figured out that all human life got extinct. Only you and your sibling of the opposite gender are the lone survivors of your own species, you both are adults and young. You both are morally strong people and you don't have any incestuous feelings for each other. You have abundant food for a lifetime, you have a shelter but you have no way to get out of the island or to be saved. What effect will this scenario have on those siblings? What effect will it have on their minds and emotions?
You can write your answer to the above scenario in the comments below if you want to. I will break down and answer the scenario after some time in the comments.
And if anyone has any more doubts on this topic, you can comment below or if you are not comfortable here, you can ping me. When I have time, I will help you out.
PS: I am not into my brother/dad. So don't misunderstand me, even if you do, well, "I don't care". I hope the guy who asked me a lot of questions seeing this, I hope I answered all your questions.
Nah, I am not here to support incest or fight against incest. I am just here to lay some facts in front of you. I am talking about "incest" because everyday in the chatrooms I get msgs from these kinda people (usually I just block them but if I have more time, I reason with them to make them understand their problem). I sometimes see them getting abused on the wall and I don't see abuse as a solution. It will only make it worse and they will keep coming back unless you make them understand why it is wrong. Keep your minds open while reading this post and it is gonna be long. If you are uncomfortable about this topic, just skip it.
Most people know incest is wrong but most of them think it is wrong for the wrong reasons or they don't know any reason. I am just here to tell you the right reasons and in the process maybe I can get you to think about some interesting questions. For me, incestuous feelings are a problem that needs to be addressed, instead of getting ignored.
First, let us understand why we don't get sexually attracted to our parents or siblings. It is due to the "Westermarck effect".
What is this effect?
Well, it is kind of a defence our subconscious minds had learned throughout evolution to avoid giving births to genetically weak off-springs. We don't get sexually attracted to our parents/siblings because we have common genes and if we have kids with them those common genes will result in mental disorders and health issues in those children. So to avoid that our subconscious minds developed this defence.
Why incest is wrong?
As I said earlier it will lead to malformed or retarded children, thus you are making those children suffer for your actions which is ethically wrong. That is why our elders say it is wrong.
Why do some people get incestuous feelings?
Incestuous feelings can be seen in any gender (mostly in men). If you observe these people and think about why these feelings occur, you can see some similar traits in them. These people are not so confident or too shy, they are not so social or outgoing, they get uncomfortable while speaking to the opposite gender, they are timid and they are not so emotionally expressive. These people get incestuous feelings because they don't have a way to vent out their sexual energy and our bodies by evolution always want to look for ways to procreate.
In this scenario, the subconscious will be forced to lower its defence down because our genetics need to be survived by an off-spring. The subconscious will be forced to think like "Well, there is a viable male/female whose already loving me, who's already in my reach, whom I can mate with to reproduce". This happens in the background, in the subconscious. So basically these people create themselves a situation by their behavior in which their mind will be tricked to think like this.
It happens in animals too. When two animal siblings, male and female are forced to live in a closed enclosure for a long time without any other's intervention, without any other animals of their own species, they mate to continue their species. In animals, we call it "Inbreeding", in humans we call it "Incest". Sometimes incestuous feelings can develop on meeting your parents/siblings after a long time. In this case, your subconscious needs time to identify them as your own family again. After that, the feelings will go away themself.
How to deal with people with incest feelings?
Incestuous feelings need to be treated like a mental disorder. One doesn't have to hate these people. One just has to reason with them and make them understand their situation and help them to get confident, more social. Make them go out and make them connect with people. One must teach them to overcome their fear of the opposite gender. It is gonna take a while to make them cultivate these habits but when they do it, these feelings will automatically go away. The problem is people don't wanna talk about these feelings because of society and all, they try to subdue their feelings without any help and it only makes it worse. Sometimes these feelings need therapy and thanks to society because of which people don't go to therapy. Because whenever society sees an individual seeking therapy, society thinks of the person as a degenerate or crazy rather than an individual trying for the betterment of him/herself.
Sometimes incestuous feelings can be caused by watching some categories of porn or maybe by watching too much "Game of Thrones" (you know what I am talking about ), just kidding . In that case, you just have to make them quit that.
Whomever reading this post, if you have any friends or family members struggling with these feelings, reason with them. Help them to overcome their fears, help them to become confident, and take them to therapy.
Answers for a few questions I got asked in ZoZo chatrooms:
Caution: Views are personal.
1)Can an adult have consensual sex with their adult sibling/parent with safety precautions? Is it right or wrong?
Yes, you can have sex with precautions. Having said that, you are already attached to your parents/siblings. And when we have sex with anyone we get more attached to them. If you have sex with your sibling/parent the bond will become more strong and it will make you struggle in your future relationships. You will struggle to get into a new relationship or maintain an existing relationship. Your life will get more complicated. You will complicate your sibling/parent's life too. So I suggest people to never act on those feelings for your own sake. If you act on them, you are only destroying yourself and their life. Which leads me to the conclusion "it is wrong".
2)If homosexuality is not wrong, why incest is wrong?
Well, in homosexuality you can't have children with your partner, but in incest that is not the case, accidents can result in unhealthy children. That is why it is "wrong".
3)Is homosexual incest ok?
Okayish. Having said that, it is still wrong because, you are making your life seriously complicated, why? Read the answer to question 1 again. So "No, Nada, Not a chance in the world".
A scenario for people to ponder on:
Let's put you in a worst-case scenario. Tomorrow you woke up on a tropical island and you figured out that all human life got extinct. Only you and your sibling of the opposite gender are the lone survivors of your own species, you both are adults and young. You both are morally strong people and you don't have any incestuous feelings for each other. You have abundant food for a lifetime, you have a shelter but you have no way to get out of the island or to be saved. What effect will this scenario have on those siblings? What effect will it have on their minds and emotions?
You can write your answer to the above scenario in the comments below if you want to. I will break down and answer the scenario after some time in the comments.
And if anyone has any more doubts on this topic, you can comment below or if you are not comfortable here, you can ping me. When I have time, I will help you out.
PS: I am not into my brother/dad. So don't misunderstand me, even if you do, well, "I don't care". I hope the guy who asked me a lot of questions seeing this, I hope I answered all your questions.
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