Where did the shy girls go?

[ɢʀɪᴍᴍᴜʜ]

I've been looking and couldn't find them. All I see is a crowd of "hey beautiful" and copy-pasted compliments, everyone talking and nobody listening.

But I don't think shy girls disappeared. I think they went quiet because of this.



When u've had fifty messages tat start the same way, u stop trusting the fifty-first, even if it's kind..., When a polite reply gets treated like an invitation, yu learn to reply less. When every compliment feels like a line, you can't tell who's real... And when you're re expected to be witty on the spot, you go silent and let the moment pass

So she watches. She reads the message three times, types something, deletes it and leaves u on seen. Tat isn't ego, It's protection.



If you want to meet a shy girl (can't just say shy gals but most of em) , my advice would be don't out-talk the crowd. Be calm, be curious, ask something only someone paying attention would ask and let the silence be okay...!!



When did u get shy over a question or moment in zozo which is worth remembering ? Let others know

 

[winee]

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[cheetra]

What you said is absolutely true, most girls will ignore its instinctive.
To get attention one needs to be different, witty yet calm.
There is simple rule, to wait for at least a minute to check if the person read the message or not, give time to think.
Expecting an immediate reply is a Red flag.
You are not exclusive, she doesn't know you. If guys could accept this much everyones life would be better.

 

[Luv4music]

I've been looking and couldn't find them. All I see is a crowd of "hey beautiful" and copy-pasted compliments, everyone talking and nobody listening.

But I don't think shy girls disappeared. I think they went quiet because of this.



When u've had fifty messages tat start the same way, u stop trusting the fifty-first, even if it's kind..., When a polite reply gets treated like an invitation, yu learn to reply less. When every compliment feels like a line, you can't tell who's real... And when you're re expected to be witty on the spot, you go silent and let the moment pass

So she watches. She reads the message three times, types something, deletes it and leaves u on seen. Tat isn't ego, It's protection.



If you want to meet a shy girl (can't just say shy gals but most of em) , my advice would be don't out-talk the crowd. Be calm, be curious, ask something only someone paying attention would ask and let the silence be okay...!!



When did u get shy over a question or moment in zozo which is worth remembering ? Let others know

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[ɢʀɪᴍᴍᴜʜ]

What you said is absolutely true, most girls will ignore its instinctive.
To get attention one needs to be different, witty yet calm.
There is simple rule, to wait for at least a minute to check if the person read the message or not, give time to think.
Expecting an immediate reply is a Red flag.
You are not exclusive, she doesn't know you. If guys could accept this much everyones life would be better.

What you said is absolutely true, most girls will ignore its instinctive.
To get attention one needs to be different, witty yet calm.
There is simple rule, to wait for at least a minute to check if the person read the message or not, give time to think.
Expecting an immediate reply is a Red flag.
You are not exclusive, she doesn't know you. If guys could accept this much everyones life would be better.

Thank you for putting it so clearly, Tat's exactly what I wanted people to see..!

 

[MrDream]

I think little differently, especially when it comes to anonymous chats!!! My observation may be completely wrong but its based on my many years of experience and exposure on such platforms.

Most of the people on such platforms don't want to show their "real me". If they are shy, they will appear as very bold open minded. Those who appear decent and caring, may not be so in real life.

Most of the girls I have seen are decent in real life but appears flirty (even dirty) on main wall. In private, most probably, they will show their "real me". This must be true about boys also.

Very rarely you will find someone who appears exactly same as their real life. I guess that comes with maturity. To really get to know person well, as Cheetra said, you have to wait and keep conversation on. No rush, but yet nobody waits for anyone in this fast paced world. Keep expectations real.

Sorry for writing so much, irrelevant to the topic.

Short answer - there are shy girls, we need to understand that in subtle way.

 

[ɢʀɪᴍᴍᴜʜ]

I think little differently, especially when it comes to anonymous chats!!! My observation may be completely wrong but its based on my many years of experience and exposure on such platforms.

Most of the people on such platforms don't want to show their "real me". If they are shy, they will appear as very bold open minded. Those who appear decent and caring, may not be so in real life.

Most of the girls I have seen are decent in real life but appears flirty (even dirty) on main wall. In private, most probably, they will show their "real me". This must be true about boys also.

Very rarely you will find someone who appears exactly same as their real life. I guess that comes with maturity. To really get to know person well, as Cheetra said, you have to wait and keep conversation on. No rush, but yet nobody waits for anyone in this fast paced world. Keep expectations real.

Sorry for writing so much, irrelevant to the topic.

Short answer - there are shy girls, we need to understand that in subtle I partially agree with you. But I don't think being flirty or even a little dirty with someone they like is wrong. Just because people are discreet doesn't mean they're faking themselves. You wouldn't reveal most things about yourself to a stranger either, and showing different sides isn't a bad thing. People open up when they feel comfortable with you.

I partially agree with you. But I don't think being flirty or even a little dirty with someone they like is wrong,,. Just because people are discreet doesn't mean they're faking themselves.

Even u wouldn't reveal most things about yourself to a stranger either and showing different sides isn't a bad thing.

Ur comment seems to define set of people,People open up when they feel comfortable with you, try to make others feel comfortable..


And you are kind. Appreciate it..!

Hope you get wat i mean,Thank you for time..!

 

[MrDream]

I partially agree with you. But I don't think being flirty or even a little dirty with someone they like is wrong,,. Just because people are discreet doesn't mean they're faking themselves.

Even u wouldn't reveal most things about yourself to a stranger either and showing different sides isn't a bad thing.

Ur comment seems to define set of people,People open up when they feel comfortable with you, try to make others feel comfortable..


And you are kind. Appreciate it..!

Hope you get wat i mean,Thank you for time..!

I don't define people. I told what I have experienced. There is no any rule for social behaviour as such, everyone has own pattern. I prefer stay calm, listen music and write poetry. No point chasing anyone.

And yes, as you rightly said, nothing is wrong or right. Its just perception one carries.