We have no control over the past, and we cannot control the future no matter what we do," Ponaman says. If you learned that trying to manipulate the present in order to get the future you want actually brings you further from those goals, the relationship you're in now is on a good path. That's because you've likely learned to live in the moment. "By not controlling the outcome of your relationship you get to be more present. Being more present allows your relationship to grow in a mo
