Let's have a class

[Rockzz]

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES...
Many people have wrongly thought they have only one love language. Let us decode this. The 5 Love Languages concept was conceptualized by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992. The five love languages are:
1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Physical touch
4. Acts of service
5. Receiving gifts
Since then, many individuals have been wanting to find out "What is my love language?" The truth is, your relationship/marriage needs all these Love Languages in full measure.
Let me explain...
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Your partner will need you to affirm them. Love is kept alive by affirmations. It is why we say "I love you", why we respond well to compliments no matter who we are or how old we are. When there will be tough days, which they will be many, we will need our partner to remind us we are great and we will make it. People who say "I don't need to be affirmed", most likely grew up without anyone appreciating them and so have learnt to numb up and not expect it. But love affirms. It is why during funerals, sadly we pour out our hearts and affirm the ones we love when they are dead yet we failed to do so when they are alive.
QUALITY TIME: No relationship can be sustained without quality time. You do not get into a relationship/marriage to be ignored and abandoned. Love = Time. What is the point of being with someone if you are not a priority to them and they don't make time for you? People who claim, I am not big on quality time, most likely are used to doing life solo in the past and become used to it.
PHYSICAL TOUCH: You can't get into a relationship and escape being touched. In marriage, you will sleep together, make love, hug. No one wants to be touched only when sex is the agenda. Most of the time people who avoid touching in their marriage is because they are either rigid or struggle to be vulnerable. Or perhaps grew up denied touch and so find it strange. Your skin was created to be touched.
ACTS OF SERVICE: You cannot love someone and not do things for them to make their life easier and comfortable. You cannot fully give yourself into a relationship and not enjoy it when your partner is thoughtful and looks out for your needs; unless you are too used to being independent which discourages you from needing your partner. Then why be with someone? Love is doing life together, serving each other.
GIFTS: Unfortunately, we have equated gifts to only being a necklace, a bottle of expensive perfume or flowers. Gifts are more than these. Gifts are anything of recourse you give to the one you love. Paying for your spouse's school fees is a gift, buying your partner a phone is a gift, fuelling your spouse's car is a gift, getting a branded t-shirt for your man is a gift, buying her a laptop for her studies is a gift, buying your spouse a piece of land is a gift. It's not that some people don't mind gifts, it's just that people have different preferences of gifts. Gift well according to your partner's likes and needs.
All these five love languages are needed in your relationship/marriage. Instead of picking one and dropping the others, purpose to express love through all of them; let your love speak in all of these languages.

Class dismissed

 

[Rockzz]

THINGS TO DO DIFFERENTLY AS A COUPLE...✍
1. Have a joint vision for your love. Don't just be together without direction. Agree on areas you will grow in, things that will define your year and projects you will pursue together.

2. Give each other eye contact more, this communicates love and attention. Unfortunately, the more some stay together, the less they show care.

3. Complain less. Tone down the fault finding. The more you appreciate each other, the more you two will be inspired to do better.

4. Communicate better. Send each other warmer texts, call each other more even if for just a brief conversation. Scroll down your messages and see love. Be each other's peace.

5. Laugh more. Find things that bring you both laughter. Watch comedies, be each other's clown, share funny videos, smile more. It makes things warmer between you two.

6. Support each other's dreams. None should feel like their progress is being curtailed. Find out your partner's dream and help to achieve it.

7. Increase your joint wealth. Analyse how you two make money and use money and maximize your earnings. Add or improve your revenue streams. Save. Invest.

8. Find a person, a family or a cause that you can help together as a couple. Be a blessing to people as a joint force. When you are a blessing to others together, you will not focus on petty fights between you two.

9. Listen to the concern your partner has about your friends or your habits and see if they are substantive. Don't hold on to friends and a lifestyle that pulls you down as a couple.

10. Agree on a joint approach to your parents and in-laws and ways you can be a blessing to them as a couple.

11. Pray more together as a couple. Cultivate your individual relationship with God and your walk with God as a couple.

12. Have your legacy as a couple in mind. What legacy do you want to leave behind to this generation and your children as a couple? Mentor your child/children. Make success stories.


Class dismissed

 

[Rockzz]

So here I tell you,

No relationship is easy, but if you are willing to make it work, it will. Because I don't think there is ever a right time to let someone you love go. I think if they mean something to you, you should fight through whatever comes your way. You should be willing to do whatever it takes to keep them in your life. Many relationships fail because they stop trying and start giving up. They think they don't fit each other, while the fact is that no one will come into your life and fit you just like that. What you need is someone who understands you and wants to put effort into your relationship.

No one said that finding "the one" would be a walk in the park. It is hard work, darling.

 

[Rockzz]

Let people misinterpret you.
Let people create an image they want to believe about you.
Let people say anything they want to say.
Let them be.
Let them judge you.
Let them condemn you.
Let them do whatever they want by just holding a small piece of you, by just hearing a portion of your story, and by just seeing you mess up.
Let them be.
Anyway, you don't have to prove yourself. You don't have to please them and beg for their attention. You don't have to tell them everything and make your story known to everyone to be understood and accepted. Because even if you did, they would not, especially when their mind is fixed on what they believe about you.
When they are only waiting for your actions to support their claims. So instead of working to win people's hearts, work on building yourself. Work on knowing yourself so deeply that people will be afraid of getting in and being buried alive. Learn from your mistakes, embrace positive changes, and be there for yourself when no one else is.
That's how most people survived.

class dismissed.......

 

[Somaiya Karn]

very nice

 

[Rockzz]

very nice

Thank you

 

[Rockzz]

The love that helps each other become better must be true love.

Not everyone is lucky enough to meet the love of their life. Not everyone could find someone who is motivated and full of good advices. Some people spend a lifetime and still could not find someone they love to their bones. Some people found the one, but could not take a good care of it.

If you find each others, try to understand each others and learn to solve problems. Sometimes, when you neglect them, it's a lifetime lost.

Maybe just another sad love story. I bet you don't want that. So be mature and choose understanding.

CLass dismissed....

 

[Rockzz]

Be the person who breaks the cycle.
If you were judged, choose understanding.
If you were rejected, choose acceptance.
If you were shamed, choose compassion.
Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you.
Vow to be better than what broke you—
to heal instead of becoming bitter
so you can act from your heart, not your pain ..

 

[yours4infinity]