There’s a unique kind of ache that comes from not knowing why something ended. It lingers, not because we can’t let go, but because we feel unfinished—like a story without its final chapter.
Closure. It’s something we all crave when things end. We want that conversation, that final moment of clarity. We want to understand what went wrong, why it didn’t work, and to get that reassuring “everything happens for a reason” line. But here’s the reality: sometimes, closure doesn’t come the way we want it to—and that’s okay.
I’ve learned that real closure doesn’t always come from the other person. Sometimes, it comes from you. From deciding that you don’t need all the answers to move on. From realizing that your peace of mind is more important than waiting for someone else’s explanation. It’s a process of accepting what was and letting it go, even if the full picture is still a little blurry.
I won’t lie—letting go is hard. And I still miss the idea of what could’ve been. But what I’ve learned is this: I deserve clarity. I deserve someone who’s equally invested, someone who shows up with effort, intention, and consistency. When you’re left wondering about someone’s intentions or getting half-hearted effort, it’s not a reflection of your worth. It’s just life telling you that there’s someone better out there—someone who chooses you fully, not just when it’s convenient.
So, if you’re stuck in that in-between phase, where you’re feeling let down and looking for answers, here’s what I’ve realized: You don’t need them. You can heal on your own, and you can move on without waiting for someone else’s closure. Let yourself grieve, let yourself feel the loss—but then, let it go. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re freeing up space for something better.
Because when you choose to walk away, you’re not abandoning yourself. You’re choosing you. And that’s always the right decision.
Closure isn’t something someone else gives you; it’s something you take when you finally decide to let yourself be free.
Closure. It’s something we all crave when things end. We want that conversation, that final moment of clarity. We want to understand what went wrong, why it didn’t work, and to get that reassuring “everything happens for a reason” line. But here’s the reality: sometimes, closure doesn’t come the way we want it to—and that’s okay.
I’ve learned that real closure doesn’t always come from the other person. Sometimes, it comes from you. From deciding that you don’t need all the answers to move on. From realizing that your peace of mind is more important than waiting for someone else’s explanation. It’s a process of accepting what was and letting it go, even if the full picture is still a little blurry.
I won’t lie—letting go is hard. And I still miss the idea of what could’ve been. But what I’ve learned is this: I deserve clarity. I deserve someone who’s equally invested, someone who shows up with effort, intention, and consistency. When you’re left wondering about someone’s intentions or getting half-hearted effort, it’s not a reflection of your worth. It’s just life telling you that there’s someone better out there—someone who chooses you fully, not just when it’s convenient.
So, if you’re stuck in that in-between phase, where you’re feeling let down and looking for answers, here’s what I’ve realized: You don’t need them. You can heal on your own, and you can move on without waiting for someone else’s closure. Let yourself grieve, let yourself feel the loss—but then, let it go. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re freeing up space for something better.
Because when you choose to walk away, you’re not abandoning yourself. You’re choosing you. And that’s always the right decision.
Closure isn’t something someone else gives you; it’s something you take when you finally decide to let yourself be free.
