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That's how I am .... (⁠‘⚆⁠⁠⌓⊙’⁠)

AsikAwara

AsikAwara

Favoured Frenzy
My biggest red flag is that :

I don't know
How to express my thoughts.
How to communicate my feelings the way people expect me to.​
Maybe that's why I lose connections (⁠◕⁠ᴥ⁠◕⁠)

The worst part is ...
I know exactly what's going on in my head.
I understand my emotions clearly.
I replay everything again and again.

But when it's time to speak...
I don't know how to put it into words.

And then they start thinking
I don't care.
That I'm heartless.
That their feelings don't matter to me. ʕ⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴥ⁠ꈍ⁠ʔ

When in reality,
I feel too much - ♥︎♥︎♥︎
I just don't know how to say it.

So I'm sorry if I made you feel this way...

ʕ⁠´⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠`⁠ʔ ​
Found this on internet and it's too relatable to me .​
 
AsikAwara said:
My biggest red flag is that :

I don't know
How to express my thoughts.
How to communicate my feelings the way people expect me to.​
Maybe that's why I lose connections (⁠◕⁠ᴥ⁠◕⁠)

The worst part is ...
I know exactly what's going on in my head.
I understand my emotions clearly.
I replay everything again and again.

But when it's time to speak...
I don't know how to put it into words.

And then they start thinking
I don't care.
That I'm heartless.
That their feelings don't matter to me. ʕ⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴥ⁠ꈍ⁠ʔ

When in reality,
I feel too much - ♥︎♥︎♥︎
I just don't know how to say it.

So I'm sorry if I made you feel this way...

ʕ⁠´⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠`⁠ʔ ​
Found this on internet and it's too relatable to me .​
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I don’t see this as a red flag… I see someone who feels deeply but struggles to express it.

That’s human, not heartless.​
 
AsikAwara said:
My biggest red flag is that :

I don't know
How to express my thoughts.
How to communicate my feelings the way people expect me to.​
Maybe that's why I lose connections (⁠◕⁠ᴥ⁠◕⁠)

The worst part is ...
I know exactly what's going on in my head.
I understand my emotions clearly.
I replay everything again and again.

But when it's time to speak...
I don't know how to put it into words.

And then they start thinking
I don't care.
That I'm heartless.
That their feelings don't matter to me. ʕ⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴥ⁠ꈍ⁠ʔ

When in reality,
I feel too much - ♥︎♥︎♥︎
I just don't know how to say it.

So I'm sorry if I made you feel this way...

ʕ⁠´⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠`⁠ʔ ​
Found this on internet and it's too relatable to me .​
Click to expand...
It is incredibly frustrating to be a "locked box"—where everything is vivid and loud inside, but the exit door is jammed. When you feel "too much," your brain sometimes freezes because it can’t find a word big enough or accurate enough to describe the intensity.This is often called Emotional Overwhelm or, in some cases, Alexithymia (the difficulty in verbalizing emotions). Because you stay silent while processing, people mistake your "buffer time" for coldness.Here is how you can start bridging that gap between your head and your mouth:1. Buy Yourself Time (The "Placeholder" Technique)When you can't find the words, don't just stay silent. Give them a "status update" so they don't fill the silence with negative assumptions.Say: "I am feeling a lot right now and I really want to explain it to you, but my brain is stuck. Give me a moment to find the words so I don't say it wrong."Why it works: It tells them you do care, you’re just "loading."2. Use the "Write-to-Speak" MethodSince you replay things in your head, your thoughts are already organized—they just get lost on the way to your tongue.Action: If you can't speak in the moment, send a text or a note later.Script: "Earlier, I went quiet because I was feeling overwhelmed. What I actually wanted to say was [X]. I’m sorry if it seemed like I didn't care; I actually cared so much I got stuck."3. Use Analogies, Not LabelsIf "I'm sad" or "I'm hurt" feels too small or inaccurate, describe the sensation.Instead of "I'm stressed," try: "I feel like I'm underwater and can't find the surface."Instead of "I'm sorry," try: "My chest feels heavy because I know I hurt you, and I'm struggling to fix it."4. Own the "Heartless" PerceptionBe honest about your struggle before a conflict even starts.Tell people: "Sometimes I feel things so deeply that I freeze up and can't talk. If I go quiet, please know it’s because I’m processing, not because I’m indifferent."You aren't heartless; you’re just experiencing a "translation error." The people who truly value you will wait for the translation if they know it's coming.Does the "freezing up" usually happen during confrontations, or even during happy moments?
 
SumitChing said:
It is incredibly frustrating to be a "locked box"—where everything is vivid and loud inside, but the exit door is jammed. When you feel "too much," your brain sometimes freezes because it can’t find a word big enough or accurate enough to describe the intensity.This is often called Emotional Overwhelm or, in some cases, Alexithymia (the difficulty in verbalizing emotions).
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Pheww .... :relieved:

yeah… I’m not cold, just got too many tabs open in my head fr ... (⁠ᵔ⁠ᴥ⁠ᵔ⁠)

On a serious note:
It’s the era of reels and short attention spans…
no one really waits unless they’re genuinely invested in you.
And the ones who truly care?
They don’t always need words, they just understand what you’re feeling.

I am relying on them... ʕ⁠´⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠`⁠ʔ
 
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