Okay lemme say something bcz I genuinely don't understand this whole "Girl's girl" thing sometimes. Yes I'm a girl's girl. Like genuinely. I'll hype a girl, defend a girl, listen to a girl, support a girl, and celebrate her, adore her, I can do literally everything.. But being a girl's girl does NOT mean I have to support every girl's actions just bcz she's a girl.
Like seriously thr are certain girls where I'm like.. Nope. I'm out. I can't defend u on this one. Specially when u KNOW another girl exists. U know he has a gf. U know she loves him. U know she's already insecure about certain things. U know exactly what ur place is in his life. And yet u still choose to cross that line. Then later u come with so called excuses like
C'mon girl… u knew it...And that's the part I cannot understand at all.. Well if a man is cheating, lying, manipulating or entertaining u behind his gf's back, thn obviously he is responsible for his own actions. I'm not defending him either. But please don't act like u had absolutely no choice. Seriously!! Cuz that doesn't make u look like pathetic but an attention seeker... U are a grown woman. U can say no. U can walk away. U can set a boundary. U can choose not to participate in something u already know is wrong. Right?
And honestly sometimes I feel like, girls forget their own worth while chasing validation from a man who isn't even theirs. Yaar You're pretty. You're lovable. You're worthy of being chosen properly. So why are u fighting for a position in someone else's relationship? Why do u need to be his secret comfort person? Why do u need his attention so badly that another girl has to lose her peace for u to feel wanted?
And no this isn't me saying "women are always wrong and men are innocent." ABSOLUTELY Not.
Sometimes or mostly the man is 100% the problem. But sometimes… both people are, specially when u know that you're knowingly hurting an another girl and in that case I'm sorry, but I cannot hide behind "girl's girl" just to excuse u.
Bcz being a girl's girl isn't : "I support every woman no matter what she does."
But It's:
"I support women, but I'll still call you out when you're wrong."
Like seriously thr are certain girls where I'm like.. Nope. I'm out. I can't defend u on this one. Specially when u KNOW another girl exists. U know he has a gf. U know she loves him. U know she's already insecure about certain things. U know exactly what ur place is in his life. And yet u still choose to cross that line. Then later u come with so called excuses like
"But he gave me attention.
He made me feel special.
He came to me first.
I didn't know what to do. Blah blah"
He made me feel special.
He came to me first.
I didn't know what to do. Blah blah"
C'mon girl… u knew it...And that's the part I cannot understand at all.. Well if a man is cheating, lying, manipulating or entertaining u behind his gf's back, thn obviously he is responsible for his own actions. I'm not defending him either. But please don't act like u had absolutely no choice. Seriously!! Cuz that doesn't make u look like pathetic but an attention seeker... U are a grown woman. U can say no. U can walk away. U can set a boundary. U can choose not to participate in something u already know is wrong. Right?
And honestly sometimes I feel like, girls forget their own worth while chasing validation from a man who isn't even theirs. Yaar You're pretty. You're lovable. You're worthy of being chosen properly. So why are u fighting for a position in someone else's relationship? Why do u need to be his secret comfort person? Why do u need his attention so badly that another girl has to lose her peace for u to feel wanted?
And no this isn't me saying "women are always wrong and men are innocent." ABSOLUTELY Not.
Sometimes or mostly the man is 100% the problem. But sometimes… both people are, specially when u know that you're knowingly hurting an another girl and in that case I'm sorry, but I cannot hide behind "girl's girl" just to excuse u.
Bcz being a girl's girl isn't : "I support every woman no matter what she does."
But It's:
"I support women, but I'll still call you out when you're wrong."
I'll stand beside a woman who is hurting. But I won't stand beside the woman who knowingly caused another woman to hurt.Thats not girlhood to me. That's just choosing ur validation over someone else's peace. And that made me feel sick about u.
️ You absolutely 
