Depression vs Sadness: Too Casually Used? What you think?

[MermaidVibes]

The word depression is so casually used nowdays that its lost its severity of the condition.

That does mean sadness is not excruciatingly painful and debilitating but depression is more than just that.

When you are sad or low in mood, you 'feel' like not getting out of bed. But, with depression, you want to but just 'can't'.

The real issue is that the term 'depression' is too casually used now as a catch phrase for all the sorrows we go through that it kinda creates a stigma.

Many believe that the sufferer should be able to hoist themselves out of it by thinking positively, moving on, change of a scene or even with exercise or prayer.. Worst of all some would advise that time heals..

And you may ask me, why shouldnt they? Seems to be pretty constructive manners to get out of 'depression.'

BUT, unfortunately with people who are clinically diagnosed with depression is not that simple. So now the real issue arises..

Just say im sad and i self diagnosed myself with depression and am able to pick myself up in a week or month & i feel much better. Now il start to say I self cured my condition and will start advising or telling others that depression can be overcomed as easy as baking a cake.

Basically, im downgrading the severity of the word. And this creates the perception that, people who are not healing from depression are 'weak', 'lazy', or simply has a 'flawed characther-who likes to sing their sorrowness.'

So the next time you use the word 'depressed' make sure you are using the right word to describe your emotion.

And a simple trick is to understand this, remember, depression is feeling of low constantly for 2 weeks that interferes with the ability to do basic daily chores or routine like even watching Netflix..

And the only hope of this post is that, some awareness and understanding spreads, and we work little harder to find the right word to describe our emotions rather conflating with what a serious condition.

Need someone to talk? There are so many of us here.. Feel free to talk about this in this safe space... We are all here for you

 

[Enola]

Depression or just simply sad..

For me, ive had been dealing with like unable to do stuffs that i used to do easily. I tend to stay up late mostly just my mind doesnt rest from overthinking! I also woke up late just to escape half of the day. Because when am awake it was like am just a walking dead! SOmetimes i would just lay on couch doing the same thing and one time, i would think is this a dejavu! SImply, diff days same old routine. some would definitely label me even I, myself as lazy. Even breathing is like a hardwork and it used up all energy! Its just hard to do basic stuffs! Not until 10pm! Thats when i would finally be able to pull myself together and do stuffs.

There are times that i would just wanna cry so loud. But crying is better it eases the heaviness inside. If you are numb! You would scream so loud but u just couldnt cry. You are just there, merely existing trying to get through that certain episode of life!

But now, this is just virtually, but it feels better to atleast somehow share your feelings. Tho , these days, i have the courage to get out of this darkness!
To everyone, who may experience the same. Its okay to not be okay. You are not alone. You just need a damn mirror and look at the reflection. You have you. Depend on you. Love yourself enough life is a rollercoaster, but in that roller coaster doesnt have one seat! There are tons, so you are not alone. Let this be a safe space to vent out some feelings.
and you @MermaidVibes you created such a lovely thread

 

[Sekziii KuyiL]

Depression -a persistent low mood more than 2 weeks (in nutshell ) thnkz for the awareness post @MermaidVibes
And to my friend who's goin through or gone through hard time @Melody ur not alone HUGZZZZZ..yes .. we r on same boat with lil variations - yes Overthinking, insomniac ,urge to lie down, loss of interest in routine works & pleasure , feelin left out even when surrounded by peeps , flash of past cumbersome events , i resist tears - hold alot and end up with head ache & tiredness . But for me it's not always dip its maniac too .. The same reason i find zozo relaxing.
SOCIAL STIGMA : we PPL see it as a BIG disease ( Comeon it's common now )! yes it may turn big , if we dont understand abt it , give attention , get some help ! JUZ A SIMPLE COUNSELING or sharing things with someone worth sharing HELPS .
I lost my friend to it , and i UNDERSTAND what I'm going through, still i try laugh around around , trynah keep ppls happy too ? How??? simple Answer - HOPE .
(There r yet severe forms of depression - helpless ,hopeless and worthless kind- which needs immediate medical attention)
My out of box idea about dip: IM A STAR , i know it , most problems r not within us but outside us- once we break the ice ! We r goin 2 be the brightest star ! Bindas
once again thanks to @MermaidVibes mermiiiiii for the eye opening post & spl thanx to @Melody fa makin me open up . More power to u galz

 

[MermaidVibes]

Depression or just simply sad..

For me, ive had been dealing with like unable to do stuffs that i used to do easily. I tend to stay up late mostly just my mind doesnt rest from overthinking! I also woke up late just to escape half of the day. Because when am awake it was like am just a walking dead! SOmetimes i would just lay on couch doing the same thing and one time, i would think is this a dejavu! SImply, diff days same old routine. some would definitely label me even I, myself as lazy. Even breathing is like a hardwork and it used up all energy! Its just hard to do basic stuffs! Not until 10pm! Thats when i would finally be able to pull myself together and do stuffs.

There are times that i would just wanna cry so loud. But crying is better it eases the heaviness inside. If you are numb! You would scream so loud but u just couldnt cry. You are just there, merely existing trying to get through that certain episode of life!

But now, this is just virtually, but it feels better to atleast somehow share your feelings. Tho , these days, i have the courage to get out of this darkness!
To everyone, who may experience the same. Its okay to not be okay. You are not alone. You just need a damn mirror and look at the reflection. You have you. Depend on you. Love yourself enough life is a rollercoaster, but in that roller coaster doesnt have one seat! There are tons, so you are not alone. Let this be a safe space to vent out some feelings.
and you @MermaidVibes you created such a lovely thread

Hey Alma Hermosa

Firstly, i just want to tell you that you are incredibly brave to open up and talk about how you feel.. Thats always the first step.

And you are damn right babe. The person you see in the mirror, that person's inner soul needs the person who is infront of the mirror more than anyone else.. AND thats always the first affirmative statement to a better mental health 'i love myself'.

Yes we are all not alone in this.. We hve each other.. huggies dear and lots of love from me..

❤❤ We are all in this together ❤ ❤

 

[Sweet Mocha ❤️]

People does have different levels of depression these days... There is high functioning depression.. who ought to go and do daily work everything normally.. but yet clinically depressed..

For me waking up from bed became a real struggle these days... there is sheer lack of motivation even when u have million deadlines to complete which affects my quality of work. It puts you down further when overlooking how others do. Some days you feel like a superhero ..on other days you tend to feel like a shit.. having a bird eye view over my life.. I would say I'm blessed with many things..I am starting to appreciate it slowly...

Thanks for pointing out social stigma, it's much more than that.. people find it difficult to understand what we are going through.. they start thinking we are avoiding them or hurting them intentionally. It takes a whole heart to understand a wounded person.

I found the journey of self-love seems quite important rather than looking/expecting love from anyone else in first place. It also needs discipline and work.. I am trying my best to do better than the previous day.

It's truly okay to not feel okay.. #Mentalhealth.. Be your own hero..

Thanks to @MermaidVibes and @Melody .. giving me the courage to talk about my journey...

 

[MermaidVibes]

Depression -a persistent low mood more than 2 weeks (in nutshell ) thnkz for the awareness post @MermaidVibes
And to my friend who's goin through or gone through hard time @Melody ur not alone HUGZZZZZ..yes .. we r on same boat with lil variations - yes Overthinking, insomniac ,urge to lie down, loss of interest in routine works & pleasure , feelin left out even when surrounded by peeps , flash of past cumbersome events , i resist tears - hold alot and end up with head ache & tiredness . But for me it's not always dip its maniac too .. The same reason i find zozo relaxing.
SOCIAL STIGMA : we PPL see it as a BIG disease ( Comeon it's common now )! yes it may turn big , if we dont understand abt it , give attention , get some help ! JUZ A SIMPLE COUNSELING or sharing things with someone worth sharing HELPS .
I lost my friend to it , and i UNDERSTAND what I'm going through, still i try laugh around around , trynah keep ppls happy too ? How??? simple Answer - HOPE .
(There r yet severe forms of depression - helpless ,hopeless and worthless kind- which needs immediate medical attention)
My out of box idea about dip: IM A STAR , i know it , most problems r not within us but outside us- once we break the ice ! We r goin 2 be the brightest star ! Bindas
once again thanks to @MermaidVibes mermiiiiii for the eye opening post & spl thanx to @Melody fa makin me open up . More power to u galz

Hey Sekzii Woman

Soo much of hugs and love to you babe
Screw them with social stigmas.. Take care of the beautiful you.. I love your approach towards dip
You are definitely a Star.. Not just any star, but the most brightest star my dear @Sekziii KuyiL The Sirius

 

[MermaidVibes]

People does have different levels of depression these days... There is high functioning depression.. who ought to go and do daily work everything normally.. but yet clinically depressed..

For me waking up from bed became a real struggle these days... there is sheer lack of motivation even when u have million deadlines to complete which affects my quality of work. It puts you down further when overlooking how others do. Some days you feel like a superhero ..on other days you tend to feel like a shit.. having a bird eye view over my life.. I would say I'm blessed with many things..I am starting to appreciate it slowly...

Thanks for pointing out social stigma, it's much more than that.. people find it difficult to understand what we are going through.. they start thinking we are avoiding them or hurting them intentionally. It takes a whole heart to understand a wounded person.

I found the journey of self-love seems quite important rather than looking/expecting love from anyone else in first place. It also needs discipline and work.. I am trying my best to do better than the previous day.

It's truly okay to not feel okay.. #Mentalhealth.. Be your own hero..

Thanks to @MermaidVibes and @Melody .. showing the courage to talk my journey too...

"People find it difficult to understand what we are going through.. they start thinking we are avoiding them or hurting them intentionally. It takes a whole heart to understand a wounded person"

I agree with u on this dear.. Mostly, they often assume the person with dip is too caught up with their own stuffs, not knowing that the person is in a battle field. hugs to you dear gurl...

You are so damn right.. To enjoy your own company and to silence the little voice when we are alone by loving it is always the first step...
Yet you are not alone, you have all of us here...

Take care.. lots of love and hugss

 

[Sekziii KuyiL]

Hey Sekzii Woman

Soo much of hugs and love to you babe
Screw them with social stigmas.. Take care of the beautiful you.. I love your approach towards dip
You are definitely a Star.. Not just any star, but the most brightest star my dear @Sekziii KuyiL The Sirius

U calling me as SIRIUS ( my fav charm) Aw that made my day ! Lol DayNight ...!
Keep spreading positivity mermi! Sure will TC

 

[Maraa]

 

[Ek Love Ya]

The word depression is so casually used nowdays that its lost its severity of the condition.

That does mean sadness is not excruciatingly painful and debilitating but depression is more than just that.

When you are sad or low in mood, you 'feel' like not getting out of bed. But, with depression, you want to but just 'can't'.

The real issue is that the term 'depression' is too casually used now as a catch phrase for all the sorrows we go through that it kinda creates a stigma.

Many believe that the sufferer should be able to hoist themselves out of it by thinking positively, moving on, change of a scene or even with exercise or prayer.. Worst of all some would advise that time heals..

And you may ask me, why shouldnt they? Seems to be pretty constructive manners to get out of 'depression.'

BUT, unfortunately with people who are clinically diagnosed with depression is not that simple. So now the real issue arises..

Just say im sad and i self diagnosed myself with depression and am able to pick myself up in a week or month & i feel much better. Now il start to say I self cured my condition and will start advising or telling others that depression can be overcomed as easy as baking a cake.

Basically, im downgrading the severity of the word. And this creates the perception that, people who are not healing from depression are 'weak', 'lazy', or simply has a 'flawed characther-who likes to sing their sorrowness.'

So the next time you use the word 'depressed' make sure you are using the right word to describe your emotion.

And a simple trick is to understand this, remember, depression is feeling of low constantly for 2 weeks that interferes with the ability to do basic daily chores or routine like even watching Netflix..

And the only hope of this post is that, some awareness and understanding spreads, and we work little harder to find the right word to describe our emotions rather conflating with what a serious condition.

Need someone to talk? There are so many of us here.. Feel free to talk about this in this safe space... We are all here for you

Yes we need to face situations it sad, depression or whatever.we can't escape from our fucking situations.

Yep,this situations created by them who we loved most and more thrust.

yes we need to face

Yes we have to cry
Yes we have to be shout
Yes we have to be strong.

 

[MermaidVibes]

Yes we need to face situations it sad, depression or whatever.we can't escape from our fucking situations.

Yep,this situations created by then who we loved most and more thrust.

yes we need to face

Yes we have to cry
Yes we have shout
Yes we have to be strong.

Let's Be Strong Together.. You got this Champ

 

[ASMITHA ACHU]

That was a bad phase of my life and it was more than 3 months. Sleeping pills dehydration aversion towards my loving activities too.
Staying away from human vibe staring at the wall for hours. Thousand plus thoughts in mind unable to convey through words mannn that was a deadly phase. Thank god certain good hearts deliberately pulled me out on their own efforts.
#luckyme

 

[MermaidVibes]

That was a bad phase of my life and it was more than 3 months. Sleeping pills dehydration aversion towards my loving activities too.
Staying away from human vibe staring at the wall for hours. Thousand plus thoughts in mind unable to convey through words mannn that was a deadly phase. Thank god certain good hearts deliberately pulled me out on their own efforts.
#luckyme

Hey my beautiful soul sister .. We are always here for you, anytime kay... You are so brave and strong.. Accepting help shows that you are a warrior not survivor.. You battled through your journey and i hope you are much better today.. Love ya.. Muakksss

 

[Sekziii KuyiL]

Hugzzzzz to the beautiful yew @ASMITHA ACHU

 

[Paris]

Hugsss out to every person out there who has been through or is going through a hard time. YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT AND GET BETTER <3

 

[Freaky]

I'd like to share a few things that help me deal with it.
The first thing i was told was 'People with depression have a distorted perception' (yes, i was highly offended.)

1). Low self esteem
Depression often leads you into a vicious cycle. That low self esteem keeps you from getting your work done, and because you think you cannot get anything done , you have a low self esteem.
It'll help if you can talk back to your self-critism, and make rational responses.
Eg. i) I cannot do anything right. I'm completely useless.
Rational response - No, there are many things I'm good at. I maybe imperfect but I'm not "completely useless" (You can start making lists in your mind, might find it difficult at first, but you'll get it.)

2) Procrastination/ Do - Nothingism
Many a times there's this phase where you just cannot get out of the bed. You wish for the stars to come out, just so you can sleep again and escape.
I was told to make a list of things I needed to get done for the day. (Could be as simple as taking a bath or reading for an hour) By the end of the day, you tick off the things done, can even add the percent of satisfaction you got on completing the task.
The key in this is to appreciate your efforts, don't go around demeaning yourself if you couldnt do a task. Give yourself credit for even the smallest of things.

Source of info ~ Feeling Good by David D. Burns , MD (recommended by my Psychiatrist) ~

P.S. Don't give up on yourself, you are stronger than your 'thoughts'. Much love to anyone who needed to read this, hope i could help.

 

[Joey]

Thanks to @MermaidVibes for this amazing thread to vent out their depression or low phase. That was the darkest 2 months phase in my life, i lost my bestest friend who understands me so well like noone else( even my parents)., We just spent only one amazing yr in our clg life, but unfortunately he met with an accident ( For those peeps who drive between 90-120, pls be safe, it just a fraction of second might cost you dear), leaves me alone this beautiful world. Some persons are like music right we can't get them out from ours head. For me, he is like that person. Since we create memories in every nook and corner of my clg, wherever I went, his memories haunting me badly then..He would be my first loved person whom I lost in my life .So I couldn't handle those emotional low in better balanced way, continuously felt low for a week, don't let out my feelings to other peeps, it was me who daily feed those low feel everyday, it might get over me and make me hard to live..I felt so much of vaccum in my life( still nobody fill the vaccum he left in me) , i started noticing a change in my behaviour, i cried endlessly for days and nights, no sleep in my eyes, hardly felt appetite, i found helpless to letting out my emotional feelings, despite loving friends and family, I felt myself to be alone, i missed him alot...I jzt want to thanks those amazing soul who make a space for me to cry my heart out, let my pain flow out, let make my heart more stronger and bear all my tortures for two months and tried hard to pulled me out from that depression or low phase stage..

To all those souls, who has gone through or going through the hard days, remember you are not alone, we are always there for you how my peeps were there for me, it's okay to want help, it's okay to need help, Depression can't be fixed with a pill, it takes times, Take mental breaks as often as possible Virtual hugs stay Strong, Don't let it get you down. A feeling is never so strong to stop you. When you could fall, you can definitely rise again