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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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