The "Unspoken" Loyalty Test

[Itsme_04]

Your partner has a "platonic" best friend (opposite gender). They have never cheated. However, you realize that when your partner has good news or a bad day, they text that friend before they text you. Is it always necessary they should tell you first or its completely fine if they are sharing it with their platonic friend first?

 

[Rasputin_M]

Hello and good evening bro. I think cheating is kind of subjective. It cannot be done through a poll. If one's partner is insecure about his or her partner being friends with the opposite gender , it means their relationship is not cemented and strong enough. As human nature it is natural to feel jealous or have anxiety yet having faith is more important. I have some very good and close friends of the opposite gender but my wife and I understand that and respect the space. Space in any relationship not just as partners , even with family is very important else it makes it claustrophobic and toxic. Hence that leads to arguments and fights. God bless!!!!. Salud!!!!

 

[Anshhi]

Your partner has a "platonic" best friend (opposite gender). They have never cheated. However, you realize that when your partner has good news or a bad day, they text that friend before they text you. Is it always necessary they should tell you first or its completely fine if they are sharing it with their platonic friend first?

Physical cheating might be a temporary mistake, but emotional cheating is a long-term plan. Emotional faithfulness is my top priority.

Awesome Intelligence ™​

 

[Itsme_04]

Hello and good evening bro. I think cheating is kind of subjective. It cannot be done through a poll. If one's partner is insecure about his or her partner being friends with the opposite gender , it means their relationship is not cemented and strong enough. As human nature it is natural to feel jealous or have anxiety yet having faith is more important. I have some very good and close friends of the opposite gender but my wife and I understand that and respect the space. Space in any relationship not just as partners , even with family is very important else it makes it claustrophobic and toxic. Hence that leads to arguments and fights. God bless!!!!. Salud!!!!

Absolutely brother... Even if someone is very close to you space is still required by every individual... A trust in any relationship is the root of its existence and one should not worry by your partner having opposite gender friends.. But what if emotionally that person is more attached to the friend and not the partner? Is it still concerning? (Thanks for sharing your opinion btw)

 

[Itsme_04]

Physical cheating might be a temporary mistake, but emotional cheating is a long-term plan. Emotional faithfulness is my top priority.

Awesome Intelligence ™​

Yess you're right... Cheating in any form is not right morally at all but here the question is whether sharing something with your platonic friend first instead of your partner right or wrong? Is it fair enough to expect your partner to share everything with you first instead of an opposite gender friend? (Thankyou for engaging... )

 

[Sweetheart]

Your partner has a "platonic" best friend (opposite gender). They have never cheated. However, you realize that when your partner has good news or a bad day, they text that friend before they text you. Is it always necessary they should tell you first or its completely fine if they are sharing it with their platonic friend first?

For me its not really okay I would feel uncomfortable with that If my partner is sharing their highs and lows with someone else first I would start wondering if he is not fully comfortable opening up to me its not about controlling who he talk to bt about feeling like I m their safe space too

 

[Itsme_04]

For me its not really okay I would feel uncomfortable with that If my partner is sharing their highs and lows with someone else first I would start wondering if he is not fully comfortable opening up to me its not about controlling who he talk to bt about feeling like I m their safe space too

Definitely one can feel uncomfortable .. As a partner you have the right or rather than right you have the authority to expect your partner to share their highs and lows with you... It can feel concerning...

 

[Anshhi]

Yess you're right... Cheating in any form is not right morally at all but here the question is whether sharing something with your platonic friend first instead of your partner right or wrong? Is it fair enough to expect your partner to share everything with you first instead of an opposite gender friend? (Thankyou for engaging... )

 

[Honey bunch]

Your partner has a "platonic" best friend (opposite gender). They have never cheated. However, you realize that when your partner has good news or a bad day, they text that friend before they text you. Is it always necessary they should tell you first or its completely fine if they are sharing it with their platonic friend first?

In a relationship, your partner is expected to be your primary emotional space over time.

So if they consistently go to someone else first, especially for both highs and lows—it can feel like you are not their go-to person, and that matters.​

 

[Itsme_04]

In a relationship, your partner is expected to be your primary emotional space over time.

So if they consistently go to someone else first, especially for both highs and lows—it can feel like you are not their go-to person, and that matters.​

I believe sometimes its fine... One can need space and sharing it with a friend than your partner can be accepted under certain circumstances...
But if its happening always then that can indicate a red flag over the "trust" part of the relationship... It may show lack of emotional understanding and support in that connection which is then concerning....

 

[Honey bunch]

I believe sometimes its fine... One can need space and sharing it with a friend than your partner can be accepted under certain circumstances...
But if its happening always then that can indicate a red flag over the "trust" part of the relationship... It may show lack of emotional understanding and support in that connection which is then concerning....

Yess