They told me not to

[Deleted member 59]

They told me to be feminine and not a feminist. They told me that feminism kills and that feminists are evil. They told me told that feminists kill babies and hate men. That feminists discriminate.They told me feminists imposed female vote on women that didn't want the voting responsibility. They told me that fighting for women's rights is pointless because women have conquered it all. They told me my menstrual cramps are all in my head. They told me to keep my balance and a slow rhythm when riding my bike even though I am an Olympic athlete and have won medals and trophies.They told me that wearing a mini skirt late at night makes "ok" for guys to catcall me, touch me and "flirt" with me. They told me that in marriage there's no such things as consent, it's the wife's job to keep her husband satisfied. They told me that I had to be mutilated at the age of 13 so I can be a better match and get a better husband. They told me I cannot show my face, hair or body around man, cause that would send me to burning flames in hell.They told me I cannot earn the same salary of my male co-worker because I can carry babies, get on periods and have P.M.S and for that I am not deserving of equal salary because I am bound to work less. They told me I can't drive well, because women tend to be less logical than men. They told me what being feminine is like. They told me I can't be fat, I can't be too thin. They told me to let my male cousins win at races, board games etc so I would not offend them and so they wouldn't feel less than important for losing to a girl. They told me that I am too mature for my age, that I have the body of a woman even though I am just 13 and still play with my Barbie dolls and hopscotch with my friends. They told me that red lipstick is not a decent color and makes me look like a stripper. They told me that if I get drunk and a guy rapes me it's my fault, I shouldn't be drinking or being around men while drunk in the first place. They told me that if I am walking down the street coming back from work and a guy rapes me it's my fault because I shouldn't be alone or walking alone at night, and that maybe I did something to cause that. They told me I can't be a transgender woman because a penis still makes me a man, even though I feel, think and act like a woman. They told me that being straightforward makes me look bitchy and arrogant and that men do not appreciate that. They told me I could not play martial arts because a woman can't fight like a man nor show the same performance. They told me that if I get pregnant after I get raped I can't abort that baby, because I would be a criminal. They told me that I can't go to church and pray to the God I believe in because I got pregnant at 16 and therefore I live in sin and can't take communion. They told me that I can't divorce the husband that beats me, instead I should find a way to fix him and stop angering him. They told me that being married and having a kid were the ultimate goal in a woman's life, and the fact I do not want any of that it makes me unnatural. They told me what to wear, that my clothes were either too sexy and provocative or too sloppy and baggie. They told me to wear my hair down and not to shave my head because I would make me masculine. They told me I could not stay out till late at night but had to watch my younger brother have a different curfew just because he's a boy. They told me I could not play with toy cars, since toy cars was a boy toy; instead they told to play with dolls and broomsticks, so I would know how to clean a house. They told me to be a stay home mom just so my husband would not feel threatened or diminished because my income was bigger than his. They told me how many times in a year I get my periods, because I clearly would never know. They told me that for being a girl my parents could choose to either keep me or not, because girls don't carry family names, only boys do. They told me I can't work because women are only fit to be wives. They told me my husband is allowed to discipline me, so I can learn my place even though it's the 21st century. They told me I have no power over my body and that male politicians know what's best for me when they create laws that limit my power of decision. They told me I can only use any permanent contraceptive method after I have a child, even though I do not want to be a mother. They told me to be quiet when men speak. They told me to go to the kitchen and join other women while men talked. They told me I am weak. They told me I am too emotional and can't perform well under pressure. They told me I could not be a lawyer because I was pregnant. They told me my kids would hold me back. They told me I must know how to cook, because every woman must know how to cook. They told me I should know how to do handcraft work and mend clothes, that would make me a good wife. They told me I cannot swear/curse because that makes me sound like a man and that's not good. They told me to change my clothes before leaving the house, because that would attract bad attention. They told me they'd rather have a son. They told me they left me because I got old and outdated. They told me they broke up with me because I said no too many times. They told me I deserved to die because I dared to leave.

Yours sincerely,

G x