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Working with people sure is if not the most, it's one of the most difficult things ever.
We have to deal with their mood swings, strong headed people, bad manners, short tempers etc... it's a long list of challenging things that we need to endure daily.
But how much is their fault and how much is ours the constant conflicts that happen? How can we achieve a healthy work relationship and build a good work environment?
In any relationship, be it work wise, friendship wise etc, we all have roles, and those roles are what define if that relationship will work or not.
There are three roles that if we follow them we will surely have more and more problems.
There's a triangle of communication named P, V and S (as I am making a rough translation maybe it's a different name for you), in this triangle we have the Persecutor, the Victim and the Savoir.
Let's imagine an office situation in which your boss comes in and rudely talks to you, he's now taking the role of Persecutor, the responsible for upsetting and hurting you. You then take up the role of the Victim and instead of maturely solving the problem by directly speaking to the source of your discomfort, you turn to a 3rd individual the Savior that has the role of solving your problem and finding a solution.
We switch between these roles constantly and we all can be the P, the V and the S, but if we keep falling on those roles we will never achieve harmony and balance. By not allowing yourself to be the Savior, you force the Victim to remove himself/herself from this role and force them to directly communicate with the person in the role of the Persecutor.
Searching for a clear communication and communicating rationally distancing yourself from raw emotions you can solve any conflict.
We have to deal with their mood swings, strong headed people, bad manners, short tempers etc... it's a long list of challenging things that we need to endure daily.
But how much is their fault and how much is ours the constant conflicts that happen? How can we achieve a healthy work relationship and build a good work environment?
In any relationship, be it work wise, friendship wise etc, we all have roles, and those roles are what define if that relationship will work or not.
There are three roles that if we follow them we will surely have more and more problems.
There's a triangle of communication named P, V and S (as I am making a rough translation maybe it's a different name for you), in this triangle we have the Persecutor, the Victim and the Savoir.
Let's imagine an office situation in which your boss comes in and rudely talks to you, he's now taking the role of Persecutor, the responsible for upsetting and hurting you. You then take up the role of the Victim and instead of maturely solving the problem by directly speaking to the source of your discomfort, you turn to a 3rd individual the Savior that has the role of solving your problem and finding a solution.
We switch between these roles constantly and we all can be the P, the V and the S, but if we keep falling on those roles we will never achieve harmony and balance. By not allowing yourself to be the Savior, you force the Victim to remove himself/herself from this role and force them to directly communicate with the person in the role of the Persecutor.
Searching for a clear communication and communicating rationally distancing yourself from raw emotions you can solve any conflict.