So, I’m taking a break from dating right now (because, honestly, it’s just too much sometimes), but my expectations? Yeah, those still stand strong. And let me tell you, even if you’re not actively dating, there’s always that one person who thinks they can push those boundaries. The ones who think a "no" is just a "maybe" or that your clear-as-day boundaries are just… suggestions.
I had this interaction with someone recently that really got me thinking. This guy had been texting me, and I was upfront about not wanting to meet up unless there was a solid plan in place. I like a plan. Plans show that someone values your time. But then he hit me with this: “Well, for walk and talk, what plan do you need? I come to your place, and you take me somewhere nearby.”
I’m sorry, what?
Let’s break this down for a second. First off, asking to come to my place when we’ve never even met in person? Big no. That’s not about being "chill" or "low-key." It’s about respect and boundaries. I’m not just going to let anyone roll up to my place with no real plan and expect me to be okay with it.
And then there’s the whole “walk and talk” thing. Cool, yeah, that sounds fun… but there’s no plan. No time, no location, no nothing. It’s like he just assumed I’d drop everything and go with whatever vague idea he had in mind. That’s not how it works for me.
I don’t know about you, but I’m the kind of person who likes things clear. If we’re going to hang out, I want details. I want to know when, where, and how things are going to unfold. That’s not being controlling—that’s just about being respectful of each other’s time.
But here’s the real kicker: The frustrating part isn’t just the lack of respect for my boundaries. It’s that people like this don’t always realize when they’re pushing too far. When you communicate what you need, and someone still ignores that? It’s a sign that they’re not really listening. And that’s where I draw the line.
Now, I’m not here to bash anyone or say dating is a total waste. It’s just a reminder to trust your gut and stick to what feels right for you. If someone’s not respecting your boundaries, no matter how many times you explain them, it’s okay to walk away. Your peace of mind and well-being should always come first.
So, if you’re reading this and you’re in a similar situation, just know: Your boundaries are important. Don’t let anyone try to talk you out of them or push you into something you’re not comfortable with. It’s okay to say no. And it’s okay to stick to your guns, even if someone doesn’t get it.
In the end, I’d rather be single and at peace with myself than deal with someone who can’t respect what I need. And if that means being a little picky about who I give my time to? So be it. You deserve someone who listens and values you from the start. Anything less isn’t worth your energy.
I had this interaction with someone recently that really got me thinking. This guy had been texting me, and I was upfront about not wanting to meet up unless there was a solid plan in place. I like a plan. Plans show that someone values your time. But then he hit me with this: “Well, for walk and talk, what plan do you need? I come to your place, and you take me somewhere nearby.”
I’m sorry, what?
Let’s break this down for a second. First off, asking to come to my place when we’ve never even met in person? Big no. That’s not about being "chill" or "low-key." It’s about respect and boundaries. I’m not just going to let anyone roll up to my place with no real plan and expect me to be okay with it.
And then there’s the whole “walk and talk” thing. Cool, yeah, that sounds fun… but there’s no plan. No time, no location, no nothing. It’s like he just assumed I’d drop everything and go with whatever vague idea he had in mind. That’s not how it works for me.
I don’t know about you, but I’m the kind of person who likes things clear. If we’re going to hang out, I want details. I want to know when, where, and how things are going to unfold. That’s not being controlling—that’s just about being respectful of each other’s time.
But here’s the real kicker: The frustrating part isn’t just the lack of respect for my boundaries. It’s that people like this don’t always realize when they’re pushing too far. When you communicate what you need, and someone still ignores that? It’s a sign that they’re not really listening. And that’s where I draw the line.
Now, I’m not here to bash anyone or say dating is a total waste. It’s just a reminder to trust your gut and stick to what feels right for you. If someone’s not respecting your boundaries, no matter how many times you explain them, it’s okay to walk away. Your peace of mind and well-being should always come first.
So, if you’re reading this and you’re in a similar situation, just know: Your boundaries are important. Don’t let anyone try to talk you out of them or push you into something you’re not comfortable with. It’s okay to say no. And it’s okay to stick to your guns, even if someone doesn’t get it.
In the end, I’d rather be single and at peace with myself than deal with someone who can’t respect what I need. And if that means being a little picky about who I give my time to? So be it. You deserve someone who listens and values you from the start. Anything less isn’t worth your energy.