Is Responsibility One Sided?

[Berlin]

A woman shares personal information with a man who is completely new to her and whom she knows nothing about, neither his past nor his background. Later, after getting to know each other's character, they part ways — either due to personal differences or disagreements.

Then, the man tries to talk to her again using a new account instead of the previous one. At this point, the woman uploads a personal photo of herself on her account. Not only does he ask, “Is this you?”, but he also publicly questions, “Is this really you?”

Immediately, the woman responds saying, “Don’t share my personal matters.”

Now the question is, Is the man the only one at fault here, or does the woman also share some responsibility?

Isn’t it a mistake to publicly share one’s real photo or personal secrets here?
Is it fair to say the man alone is responsible for everything?

I’m not supporting him… but isn't the mistake on both sides?

A man can talk to a woman claiming to be a friend or in the context of some other relationship. He could gather all personal information and then turn against her.
So isn’t it the woman who should act with more care and responsibility?

What I want to know is ..should a warning action be taken only against the man or against the woman too?

 

[Anshhi]

A woman shares personal information with a man who is completely new to her and whom she knows nothing about, neither his past nor his background. Later, after getting to know each other's character, they part ways — either due to personal differences or disagreements.

Then, the man tries to talk to her again using a new account instead of the previous one. At this point, the woman uploads a personal photo of herself on her account. Not only does he ask, “Is this you?”, but he also publicly questions, “Is this really you?”

Immediately, the woman responds saying, “Don’t share my personal matters.”

Now the question is, Is the man the only one at fault here, or does the woman also share some responsibility?

Isn’t it a mistake to publicly share one’s real photo or personal secrets here?
Is it fair to say the man alone is responsible for everything?

I’m not supporting him… but isn't the mistake on both sides?

A man can talk to a woman claiming to be a friend or in the context of some other relationship. He could gather all personal information and then turn against her.
So isn’t it the woman who should act with more care and responsibility?

What I want to know is ..should a warning action be taken only against the man or against the woman too?

The woman's decision to share personal information with someone she didn't know well was indeed risky, and it's fair to say she bears some responsibility for that. However, the man's actions in publicly questioning her photo and sharing her personal matters without consent are a clear breach of privacy and trust.

While the woman should be cautious about sharing personal info, the man's behavior is more egregious. His actions could have serious consequences for her, including harassment or reputational damage.

A warning action might be warranted for both parties, but the man's behavior seems more deserving of scrutiny. Ultimately, both parties should exercise caution and respect online, but the man's actions are more problematic.
*A_AICS

 

[BloodRose]

Interesting choice of topic! Here’s my take:

Firstly, everyone should be cautious with personal information, regardless of gender. That’s part of maintaining healthy boundaries and practicing digital literacy.

Secondly, it’s unjust to make women solely responsible for preventing manipulation. This mindset can lead to victim-blaming and distracts from the real issue—why some individuals choose to deceive and exploit trust in the first place.

Finally, we need a twofold approach: empower individuals of all genders to recognize red flags and set boundaries, while also holding those who engage in deceptive behavior accountable. Trust should never be weaponized, and responsibility must be shared fairly.

 

[Dom55]

A woman shares personal information with a man who is completely new to her and whom she knows nothing about, neither his past nor his background. Later, after getting to know each other's character, they part ways — either due to personal differences or disagreements.

Then, the man tries to talk to her again using a new account instead of the previous one. At this point, the woman uploads a personal photo of herself on her account. Not only does he ask, “Is this you?”, but he also publicly questions, “Is this really you?”

Immediately, the woman responds saying, “Don’t share my personal matters.”

Now the question is, Is the man the only one at fault here, or does the woman also share some responsibility?

Isn’t it a mistake to publicly share one’s real photo or personal secrets here?
Is it fair to say the man alone is responsible for everything?

I’m not supporting him… but isn't the mistake on both sides?

A man can talk to a woman claiming to be a friend or in the context of some other relationship. He could gather all personal information and then turn against her.
So isn’t it the woman who should act with more care and responsibility?

What I want to know is ..should a warning action be taken only against the man or against the woman too?

My opinion differs here. When terms are good n shared any info , pics or personal detail in private by either of gender , should be private life long. Even terms changes , n it happens often because we all are human , no one of any gender are allowed to share personal info in public. If some girl shares info with me when we are friends n later we turn even enemy , I wont share her personal info ever in life time. But precaution is better then cure. Should not share personal info in virtual world.

 

[Berlin]

The woman's decision to share personal information with someone she didn't know well was indeed risky, and it's fair to say she bears some responsibility for that. However, the man's actions in publicly questioning her photo and sharing her personal matters without consent are a clear breach of privacy and trust.

While the woman should be cautious about sharing personal info, the man's behavior is more egregious. His actions could have serious consequences for her, including harassment or reputational damage.

A warning action might be warranted for both parties, but the man's behavior seems more deserving of scrutiny. Ultimately, both parties should exercise caution and respect online, but the man's actions are more problematic.
*A_AICS

Yes, I completely agree.he should be punished if she used public chat sites. But in virtual chats, I think the first rule is usually: don't share your personal information....
I won’t support her blindly here, because if I do, another girl might take that as an example.
If she sends her picture privately to him, I will surely support her. However, if she uses her real photo as her main display picture, then she is partly responsible for the situation.
my point is "No exceptions to the rules".

 

[Berlin]

Interesting choice of topic! Here’s my take:

Firstly, everyone should be cautious with personal information, regardless of gender. That’s part of maintaining healthy boundaries and practicing digital literacy.

Secondly, it’s unjust to make women solely responsible for preventing manipulation. This mindset can lead to victim-blaming and distracts from the real issue—why some individuals choose to deceive and exploit trust in the first place.

Finally, we need a twofold approach: empower individuals of all genders to recognize red flags and set boundaries, while also holding those who engage in deceptive behavior accountable. Trust should never be weaponized, and responsibility must be shared fairly.

First of all, thank you for sharing your opinion here as a girl.Most girls won’t leave any comments or like,they just watch and move on. Because generally, most of the comments here from women tend to say that only the man is at fault.even a girl who has done nothing wrong can be affected through technological means, should she have used her real photo on here? She did this despite being well aware of the mindset of many people who come here

 

[Berlin]

My opinion differs here. When terms are good n shared any info , pics or personal detail in private by either of gender , should be private life long. Even terms changes , n it happens often because we all are human , no one of any gender are allowed to share personal info in public. If some girl shares info with me when we are friends n later we turn even enemy , I wont share her personal info ever in life time. But precaution is better then cure. Should not share personal info in virtual world.

Everyone should try to be like you.

 

[BloodRose]

First of all, thank you for sharing your opinion here as a girl.Most girls won’t leave any comments or like,they just watch and move on. Because generally, most of the comments here from women tend to say that only the man is at fault.even a girl who has done nothing wrong can be affected through technological means, should she have used her real photo on here? She did this despite being well aware of the mindset of many people who come here

Even someone who has done nothing wrong can be targeted or harassed simply for existing in a public or semi-public space online.It's unfair, but unfortunately, it's a reality in many parts of the internet.

Should she have used her real photo? That depends on the context and her understanding of the risks. If she was aware of how people might react and still chose to share it, it could reflect a decision to be authentic or to challenge a toxic environment. But awareness doesn't mean blame—it's important to keep the focus on those who abuse or exploit, not those who are targeted.