In this era , we do everything through our phones—order groceries, manage our careers, and seek out "the one." Yet, mention you’re dating someone you haven’t met in person, and you’ll still get that skeptical side-eye from friends. We are on zozo now,and many of us has found the love of our life,many have crush on eachother but many of us also believe that online love is just a bullshit. Quite a debatable topic. Clash of perspectives.
The debate usually falls into two camps: those who think it’s a waste of emotional energy, and those who believe it’s the most honest way to fall in love. Let's peel back the layers of both.
The Skeptic’s View: "You’re in Love with a Ghost"
The Believer’s View: "We Fell in Love with Minds, Not Bodies"
But Is it "bullshit"???? Only if it stays a fantasy.
The truth is that a screen can be a bridge or a barrier. If you use the internet to find someone you’d never meet in your small town and eventually bring that love into the physical world, it’s a modern miracle. Few have the guts to do so,nd few somehow remains unlucky. But if the relationship is used to hide from the "real world," it can become a loop of "what-ifs."
In the end , I'll just say love isn't defined by where it starts, but by how much truth is behind the words being typed. You never know when and how you start growing feelings. What looks "bullshit" to you,later the same thing will look beautiful moment to you , when you find you "Right person". But it depends on you,how you see it or feel it. Think twice before you give commitment to someone,is it just a timepass for u to escape the reality or your soul really craves for the person.
The debate usually falls into two camps: those who think it’s a waste of emotional energy, and those who believe it’s the most honest way to fall in love. Let's peel back the layers of both.
The Skeptic’s View: "You’re in Love with a Ghost"
For many, the idea of an online relationship feels like a "diet" version of reality—it looks like the real thing, but it lacks the substance.The argument here is that we don’t fall for people online; we fall for the versions of them we build in our heads. When you only see someone through a 6-inch screen, your brain naturally fills in the gaps with exactly what you want to see. You don't see how they treat a rude waiter, how they smell after a long day, or how they handle a silent car ride. To the skeptic, an online relationship is a "controlled environment" that shields you from the messy, beautiful reality of a human being. They see it as a way to stay "safe" from true intimacy by keeping a digital wall between two hearts.
The Believer’s View: "We Fell in Love with Minds, Not Bodies"
On the other side of the screen, there are those who swear by the "soul-first" connection. They argue that physical dating is actually the shallow way to go.
When you meet online, you don't have the "distraction" of physical chemistry to blind you to red flags. You are forced to talk—really talk. You share your childhood traumas, your 3:00 AM thoughts,your crazy mood swings and your deepest fears before you even know how the other person chews their food. For these people, the digital space is a sanctuary where vulnerability is easier. They argue that by the time they finally meet in person, they already know the "map" of the other person’s heart, making the eventual physical connection much deeper than a random hookup from a bar. You start imagining your whole life with them "The perfect bollywood movie kinda story". It makes you feel seen,heard and cherished. Finally you find the love,the care you were craving for. SOUNDS SWEET.
When you meet online, you don't have the "distraction" of physical chemistry to blind you to red flags. You are forced to talk—really talk. You share your childhood traumas, your 3:00 AM thoughts,your crazy mood swings and your deepest fears before you even know how the other person chews their food. For these people, the digital space is a sanctuary where vulnerability is easier. They argue that by the time they finally meet in person, they already know the "map" of the other person’s heart, making the eventual physical connection much deeper than a random hookup from a bar. You start imagining your whole life with them "The perfect bollywood movie kinda story". It makes you feel seen,heard and cherished. Finally you find the love,the care you were craving for. SOUNDS SWEET.
But Is it "bullshit"???? Only if it stays a fantasy.
The truth is that a screen can be a bridge or a barrier. If you use the internet to find someone you’d never meet in your small town and eventually bring that love into the physical world, it’s a modern miracle. Few have the guts to do so,nd few somehow remains unlucky. But if the relationship is used to hide from the "real world," it can become a loop of "what-ifs."
In the end , I'll just say love isn't defined by where it starts, but by how much truth is behind the words being typed. You never know when and how you start growing feelings. What looks "bullshit" to you,later the same thing will look beautiful moment to you , when you find you "Right person". But it depends on you,how you see it or feel it. Think twice before you give commitment to someone,is it just a timepass for u to escape the reality or your soul really craves for the person.