What happened last Sunday evening on the Telugu wall should never happen again. The filthy mindset, body shaming, and slut-shaming are absolutely intolerable, and I do not accept or condone it in any way.(Just to note — I was not online when the incident happened.)
A thread was created to support and explain what happened — I do appreciate that!!
However, the questions you asked in that thread were not okay, and using names like “Gaana Kokilas” and “Chinni Munni” was inappropriate.
Also, in the same thread, several questions were raised about silent spectators, and some even went as far as asking, “Are you even a woman?” simply because someone chose not to take a stand — which, in my view.. is equally unacceptable!
Whenever something happens and we reach out to the admins and moderators, we keep hearing the same phrase repeated like a ..one liner mantra ..: Ignore, block, and just avoid.
When I personally sought help, the only solution I was offered was: We’ll change your ID or Just stop coming.
That was the day I stopped approaching any admin for so-called help. I decided then:.. if I can help myself, I will. If not, I’ll simply walk away from this place.
But when similar things happen to you—mods and admins—why don’t you follow your own advice? Ignore it. Don’t read those messages. Instead, you ask regular users to come forward and support you?
Over the years, I’ve taken a stand for many women. In return, my family was abused and dragged into situations they had no part in. And once again, the only advice given was: Just ignore it.
You have your support systems to back you. Still, you expect regular users to take a stand.? And when they choose silence, you question their womanhood? You label them as filthy?Making judgmental statements like calling others jealous or accusing them of groupism ?
Isn’t that hypocrisy?
Silence can stem from deep hurt too — it's not always a sign of jealousy.
I’m okay if you decide to delete the thread or even ban my ID — but I hope you’ll take a moment to consider the points I’ve raised.
Cheers!!
Just to keep this simple — you were not there on that day, you were not one of the silent spectators, yet you took a stand on their behalf. So, shall I assume you were asked to write a thread for them?
NO ONE ASKED ME TO WRITE A THREAD.
I have a spine. I work according to my conscience.
I did not question anyone's
“womanhood.”
“Are you even a woman?” — not my statement.
Mine was:
“Forgot they are women?”
And I’d write it again. I repeat the question — directed toward the women who were involved in that wall conversation that day.
Some watched silently, fully aware of what was happening.
Some cheered.
Some directly took part — even if they didn’t instigate the two loafers to speak filth.
These women — maybe one, maybe more — did not ask the men to stop.
And the language used wasn’t English or Hindi or anything foreign.
Their voice messages were in plain Telugu.
Some of the people I referred to reacted to
your thread with a sad emoji.
Were they too cowardly to speak, so they asked you to write it for them?
If I wanted to question your intentions the way you questioned mine — this is exactly how that would look.
Here’s my direct question to you:
Where was womanhood questioned?
Which women did I label as “filthy”?
Whom did I call jealous?
You — by the name Sira — may not be jealous of anyone.
But the then-mods of the room were
abused left and right by the same guy.
The mods remained silent.
A lot of filth was spoken against them.
People ganged up.
And
jealousy flowed freely through their statements and accusations.
If you can twist my words and create meanings that suit your narrative, I can do the same.
Were the abusers your
thammulu? Your
wall thammullu?
Are you hurt that I called them out?
Or were the silent spectators your close friends — and their fragile egos were bruised, so you came to defend them?
This is a two-way street.
You give one, I give one.
So please — stop with these silly accusations like
“womanhood was questioned” or
“women were called filthy.”
Don’t twist my words to fit your interpretation.
Honestly, I would’ve appreciated it more if you had remained silent, rather than responding with baseless arguments.
I’m not hurt that you called me a hypocrite.
Maybe I am one — in your eyes.
But my thread
did not question anyone’s womanhood.
You weren’t present that Sunday evening.
You know nothing, Jon Snow.
If that filth had entered your ears, I believe you would have reacted too.
In fact, I believe you would’ve
called it out.
From what people have told me about you, you’re mature and wise.
So either rewind and listen to the wall voice notes your
“wall thammullu” shared — or at least hear both sides before calling anyone out.
Hypocrisy has bounds. Idiocy has none.
This isn’t name-calling.
This isn’t a battle of accusations.
All I’m saying is — you should’ve done your homework.
You should’ve spoken to enough people before trying to dilute the core points I raised…
Before assuming people “reached out to me” to write that thread.
Here’s what actually happened —
I drafted the thread and waited two days before posting it.
I reached out to the mod to check if they were okay with it — and let them know they'd be indirectly referenced.
That’s it.
You're free to throw more accusations now.
My reply to all of them will be silence.
Good luck. I’m ready to be painted black.
To the
chinnillu, munnilu, bujjilu reading this —
Hi 
These aren't filthy or degrading terms.
Ivem boothu maatalu kaadu. Nenu em mimmalni heenamga neecham ga chudatledu, chudanu. Mee dharmathmulaina friends (konthamandhi) mimmalni alaane chusthuu untaru. Meeku ibbandi ga unte vaalani aapandi.
Not once did I disrespect any of you.
And if, knowingly or unknowingly, I did —
I’m not afraid to apologize and move on.
Bye bujjilu. Love you bache.
Signing off.
