It took me years to understand
why so many women stay where love no longer feels like home.
Because truth is —
we don’t really date.
We dive headfirst.
Into the attention.
The good mornings.
The late-night talks that feel like forever.
The butterflies that whisper, this must be it.
And before we realize,
we’re tied — not by love,
but by moments that made us feel seen.
Not because he’s right,
but because we never stopped to ask —
Can I live with his silence?
His habits?
His anger?
Can I grow beside him for a lifetime,
or am I just afraid of starting over?
We don’t watch, we attach.
And that’s how we get stuck.
Not because love is strong,
but because leaving feels heavier than staying.
So slow down.
Speak. Observe.
Learn the soul before you hold the hand.
Because falling is effortless...
but healing after breaking —
that’s where the real strength lives.
why so many women stay where love no longer feels like home.
Because truth is —
we don’t really date.
We dive headfirst.
Into the attention.
The good mornings.
The late-night talks that feel like forever.
The butterflies that whisper, this must be it.
And before we realize,
we’re tied — not by love,
but by moments that made us feel seen.
Not because he’s right,
but because we never stopped to ask —
Can I live with his silence?
His habits?
His anger?
Can I grow beside him for a lifetime,
or am I just afraid of starting over?
We don’t watch, we attach.
And that’s how we get stuck.
Not because love is strong,
but because leaving feels heavier than staying.
So slow down.
Speak. Observe.
Learn the soul before you hold the hand.
Because falling is effortless...
but healing after breaking —
that’s where the real strength lives.
