What Does "No" Mean to You?
Lately, I’ve been encountering something incredibly frustrating: some men, nope not men, but guys, simply don’t understand the meaning of “No.”
In the virtual world, whether it’s sexting, flirting, or kink play—consent is everything. Mutual interest is the baseline. But my recent experiences say otherwise. Despite telling someone “No, I’m not interested” or “I don’t see you that way,” they continue begging me to help relieve their “problem.”
Why? Why should I?
There was no mutual attraction, no chemistry, no flirting, no playful buildup. Nothing. But somehow, I’m expected to “help” as if I’m a sexual charity worker and you’re a case in need of pity.
I don’t owe you pleasure, attention, or affection—especially when you’re ignoring my boundaries to try and get it.
You are not entitled to my time or my energy, virtually or otherwise, just because you're horny.
No means NO.
Not “maybe.”
Not “convince me.”
Not “try harder.”
Just no.
If you can't respect that, you're not looking for connection—you're looking for control. And that’s not just unattractive—it’s unacceptable.
To the ones who do get it—those who understand boundaries, value mutual desire, and engage with respect—thank you. You're rare, and deeply appreciated.
In the virtual world, whether it’s sexting, flirting, or kink play—consent is everything. Mutual interest is the baseline. But my recent experiences say otherwise. Despite telling someone “No, I’m not interested” or “I don’t see you that way,” they continue begging me to help relieve their “problem.”
Why? Why should I?
There was no mutual attraction, no chemistry, no flirting, no playful buildup. Nothing. But somehow, I’m expected to “help” as if I’m a sexual charity worker and you’re a case in need of pity.
I don’t owe you pleasure, attention, or affection—especially when you’re ignoring my boundaries to try and get it.
You are not entitled to my time or my energy, virtually or otherwise, just because you're horny.
No means NO.
Not “maybe.”
Not “convince me.”
Not “try harder.”
Just no.
If you can't respect that, you're not looking for connection—you're looking for control. And that’s not just unattractive—it’s unacceptable.
To the ones who do get it—those who understand boundaries, value mutual desire, and engage with respect—thank you. You're rare, and deeply appreciated.
