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Who likes sex faster?
Following the belief that women are more likely to enjoy slow sex, it was fully expected that men would crave "fast sex" more often. But women surprised us by reporting that they preferred a faster pace more often than men.
While just about half (50.2%) of men and women agreed that they would like an even split between fast and slow pace, more women (31.7 %) chose a fast pace 'most or all of the time' than men (20%), who didn't want it that fast nearly as often.
But it wasn't just gender that played a part in a desire for this speedier carnality. Age was the biggest factor in determining which pace of sex people craved. The under 35 crowd was twice as likely to get aroused by faster sex than the over 35ers.
Who likes sex slower?
While men and the over 35 group craved a slower pace, another more significant factor stood out about the slow-sex folk - relationship satisfaction. The people who desired slower sex also reported being less satisfied in their relationship. This was a surprisingly significant finding that we do not yet know how to explain. More research is needed to understand what this result means.
Which sex-pace is better?
There is no single 'right way' to have sex. The pace of sex was not found to be related to sexual satisfaction. Most people desire a combination of fast and intense along with slow and relaxed. How often we enjoy fast or slow will vary with our mood, level of arousal or partner's preferences. Yet most of us have an idea, an overall script, of what pace works best to arouse us or bring us to orgasm.
Problems arise only when a couple's preference for pace is mismatched. Take Kathy and John for example, who have been together for 10 years. John needs a buildup to sex. He feels more control if sex isn't rushed and he loves to disappear into the sexual moment with a lingering, sensual pace. Kathy, on the other hand, craves more intensity to boost her arousal. She gets bored with too much slowness and craves a more passionate, faster, deeper pace. A few years ago both started getting frustrated with the other - each one trying to get more of their preferred pace. In the end they blamed the other for not being their ideal sexual match, and eventually just quit having sex.
Like many aspects of sex, pace is important. And not just to "slow down." It is an individual difference that needs to be respected and cherished. Some couples get stuck in the differences, and without discussion or negotiation, lovers can inadvertently be making each other unhappy.
Sexual pace is important, but communicating about pace is the real key
Following the belief that women are more likely to enjoy slow sex, it was fully expected that men would crave "fast sex" more often. But women surprised us by reporting that they preferred a faster pace more often than men.
While just about half (50.2%) of men and women agreed that they would like an even split between fast and slow pace, more women (31.7 %) chose a fast pace 'most or all of the time' than men (20%), who didn't want it that fast nearly as often.
But it wasn't just gender that played a part in a desire for this speedier carnality. Age was the biggest factor in determining which pace of sex people craved. The under 35 crowd was twice as likely to get aroused by faster sex than the over 35ers.
Who likes sex slower?
While men and the over 35 group craved a slower pace, another more significant factor stood out about the slow-sex folk - relationship satisfaction. The people who desired slower sex also reported being less satisfied in their relationship. This was a surprisingly significant finding that we do not yet know how to explain. More research is needed to understand what this result means.
Which sex-pace is better?
There is no single 'right way' to have sex. The pace of sex was not found to be related to sexual satisfaction. Most people desire a combination of fast and intense along with slow and relaxed. How often we enjoy fast or slow will vary with our mood, level of arousal or partner's preferences. Yet most of us have an idea, an overall script, of what pace works best to arouse us or bring us to orgasm.
Problems arise only when a couple's preference for pace is mismatched. Take Kathy and John for example, who have been together for 10 years. John needs a buildup to sex. He feels more control if sex isn't rushed and he loves to disappear into the sexual moment with a lingering, sensual pace. Kathy, on the other hand, craves more intensity to boost her arousal. She gets bored with too much slowness and craves a more passionate, faster, deeper pace. A few years ago both started getting frustrated with the other - each one trying to get more of their preferred pace. In the end they blamed the other for not being their ideal sexual match, and eventually just quit having sex.
Like many aspects of sex, pace is important. And not just to "slow down." It is an individual difference that needs to be respected and cherished. Some couples get stuck in the differences, and without discussion or negotiation, lovers can inadvertently be making each other unhappy.
Sexual pace is important, but communicating about pace is the real key